Fighting with fears and phobias

The way Pakistani people have been raised and brought up is different than the west. During the childhood years, kids are afraid of being scold by their parents for doing minor mistakes. The outcome is that they hardly experiment new things because they are not appreciated for bringing creative ideas. Even in the schools, there is no any proper learning system for these children where they can explore new things, create new ideas and where they are given space for learning on their own. They are just forced to read their course books, ratify the notes and follow the homework deadlines. When a child returns home, he is again pressurized to complete his homework and study to secure position among others. I don't understand why in our society position holder students have been treated extraordinary and an average student is being dejected. We need to understand that every child is different. Some are academically strong, some are good at sports, some love arts, some love music and some like doing new experiments. You have to treat each of them equally and appreciate for what they are doing. Give them their space to grow and you will ultimately realize that they have talent in subject of their own interest. Unfortunately, we as parents do not allow them to grow according to their wishes and brainwash them to act according to our instructions. When they grow up they become professional doctors and engineers, hold good labels and posts but they actually do not enjoy their work due to which they become frustrated and unhappy. It is more important that they enjoy what they do and only then they become more successful. Alas! many of them are not working according to their choices and many don't know about their interests. They are just going with the flow and pursuing their career without knowing their destination. We cannot blame solely on our parents but actually the system of our society needs to be changed.

I think parents should motivate their kids to do every kind of activities rather than focusing only on their studies. Kids should be encouraged to attend summer camps, computer programs, sports activities along with studies. In schools, there should be credits for extra curricular activities and teachers should observe the child's interest individually. 

The other crucial factor which become an obstacle in our way of success is "FEAR". Parents should not scold their kids for doing minor mistakes because the fear of doing mistakes makes man dastard and he could not be successful and this will remain in his personality for the rest of his life. A person could only be successful when he commits mistakes and learns from them. But fear in advance of doing mistakes make person stagnant. We should focus on changing our schooling system in a better way  and then we will find our new generation more courageous, bravado, and strong.

Love God, Love humanity, Love yourself.

ABORTION OF A BABY GIRL

Have u ever thought about the biggest sin followed by many people in our society? Yes, I am talking about the intentional abortions of baby girl that is being carried out by uneducated mothers. They think that a girl is more of a liability for them because of the Dowry system running in our society( that is family of a bride has to give huge amount of material things for the girl survival )while boys will earn for them and his wife will bring all the goods.How pathetic our society traditions are and even the people who are promoting these traditions. I feel so pity on those mothers who are not courageous enough to fight against their own husband or their family for such a cruel act. I realy wanted to ask these women if they feel so inferior or worthless that they don't want to be responsible for bringing up their baby girl into this world??. India, pakistan, China and in many countries, sex selective abortion is being carried out and therefore many doctors usually refuse to inform about child sex to their own parents. Those parents doesn't know that infanticide is a big sin ?? . Actually they are no less than a murderer. I want to ask those mothers where does your motherhood goes when you are ready to do such a horrible crime?? Don't you ever feel before aborting your baby that inside your tummy she was so excited for her existence into this world, she also wanted the same love and importance of her individuality, she also dream to make her mom and dad happy, she must be having hopes of wearing beautiful pink clothes and rubber bands, she also wanted to be your fairy. But Alas! ....Those parents killed all her hopes and desires with her, How sad!


Moreover i also want to emphasize that in Islam it is strictly prohibited as its written in Quran " You shall not kill your children in fear of poverty. We provide for them as well as for you. Killing them is gross offense." (17:31). Moreover, Holy prophet (SAW) condemned the unequality of gender, he hated the dowry system and loved simplicity. Infact from Islamic history the girl had right to ask for man's possesion but Holy prophet (SAWW) even didnt see all this for her very lovable daughter Fatima (RA) marriage who got married with Ali (RA) who was himself a poor guy. But their is no such islamic history which obliged girl's parents to give enormous goods or gold that they hardly afford. I would like to request young girls to stop this tradition of jahez (dowry), fight for your rights, fight for wrong things happening in our society otherwise you will end up in killing your innocent babies. Condemn this illegal sin and don't promote it under pressure of these customs and traditions. Boys and Girls are equal and its the duty of every daughter to take care of their parents the same way as their sons do, so that they don't get this feeling of regret of having daughters rather than sons. Stop hating your own existence, stop hating your own gender. I would also like to tell those boys who are so inhuman that they beat up their wives if they give birth to a duaghter rahter than son that you are unfair . Let me tell you a scientific fact that genes on male chromosomes determine the sex of the baby so they are blaming their wives for no reason. It is very unsympathetic that If you are blessed with son you feel proud and if you are made parents of a daughter you feel guilty in this society. Don't hate female gender because your mother is also a female and heaven lies in her feets.
I would like to appreciate those people who are with me and want to make this world beautiful with no hate, no difference of sex,gender,colour and race. I would like to request you that its now your duty to educate people as much as you can so that no baby girl will be killed before birth, no daughters will be differentiated or criticized on their existence and no woman will be beaten on giving birth to a baby girl.


Love God, Love Nature, Love Humanity

Stress and tension has become the part of the society

Why do we stressed out so much?

Common question raise in every body's mind and how to get rid of it? .

The most important element of stressful life is "competition with peers leading to envy and jealousy". We do not focus on the little things that make us happy rather we work on making our external impression on people and surroundings. Why can't we live a life according to our wishes and beliefs? why are we compelled to do what is important in eyes of society ? Why are we afraid of people rather than from God?

Actually we have indulged ourselves into this materialistic world and our desires are revolving around them. We search for every new thing in the market just to show off and get name and fame in society. Every luxury has now become a necessity for us. Did you ever think that for whom we are doing all this?

For living a happy life we do not need a mansion or million dollars to buy fancy cars or diamonds. It is enough to have a small house where people love each other, a vehicle to ride, small amount of money that is earned by fair means to fulfill our desires. Human beings are greedy by instincts and if we feed the greedy lion, we desire more. If we become a multi millionaire even then we look at those aspects of life that are not fulfilled. No one is made perfect in this world, but always keep in mind that sorrows never lasts for a long. Every dark brings light and time never remain the same. We should never loose our patience in rough times and keep moving ahead. Live for yourself and for those who love you. Do not go with the flow but instead try to change the environment for betterment. Respect people's belief and thoughts, be original and try to enjoy every bit of moment. Do exercise daily and breathe in fresh air, meditate and be simple at heart.
Trust on yourself and keep strong faith in God :)

Please share your views and comment how do you  manage stress?